Question

I am 18 and would like to go on the pill. I haven't spoken to my mother about it recently however she has always told me that she would rather I just go to the doctor and get put on the pill than have unprotected sex because I didn't want to talk to her. I just want to know what the procedure is though. What do they do? I know, dumb question but there's no way that I will ask my mother.

Answer

First , it is only dumb not to ask. Depending on your doctor, you will give a medical history, have your vitals taken, and maybe a gynecological exam. Usually the pill is prescribed for several months and you must return for a follow-up each time a new prescription is needed. The pill should not be considered the answer to unprotected sex. In your situation having sex may expose you to a wide variety of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) which may lead to infertility later on. There is also the risk of herpes, hepatitis B, and HIV. The pill in its many formulations has a long list of side effects such as weight gain, increased blood clotting, high blood pressure, increased risk of cervical or breast cancer……pregnancy due to improper use, and may also cause irreversible damage to your reproductive system.

You also have the option to wait and manage your fertility naturally within a monogamous, married relationship. It is easy and has no negative side effects. (sounds like a natural family planning teacher J ) The love and commitment makes sex a true and complete demonstration of love rather than just recreational. You will be glad that you did not risk your future happiness.

As difficult as it may seem to speak to your mom, all it takes is the first sentence… listen…ask…share feelings…ask more……and then emotional anxiety gone! You will be able to ask and confide in someone that truly has your best interest at heart.

Then you can make the best, informed decision. You owe it to yourself, since you will have to live with it whatever the outcome. Take the time to ask and you will find the answers. You should be able to find a lot of additional support through this site.

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